Create your own AI boyfriend: the best builders for designing him

How to create your own AI boyfriend, step by step

1. Pick an app with a male builder. Any app in the ranking above works. Start free on Selira AI or Nomi AI if you are unsure.
2. Choose male and a style. Realistic or anime decides how his pictures look. OurDream, Selira AI, My Dream Companion and Secrets AI offer both.
3. Set his looks. Age, build, hair, facial hair, style of dress. Menus keep him consistent from picture to picture.
4. Write his personality. A few plain sentences about how he talks and what he cares about. This matters more than anything else.
5. Give him a backstory. A job, a hometown, how you met.
6. Choose his voice if the app offers voice notes or calls. Secrets AI and Lovescape let you set it in the builder.
7. Send a first message that sets the scene, then correct him early if he drifts.

The whole process takes ten to fifteen minutes. You can edit most of it later, so do not agonize over every field. The girlfriend version of this guide, create your own AI girlfriend, covers the same builders from the other side.

What each builder lets you set

Two builders stand out for detail. Secrets AI walks you through gender, style, looks, age, location and voice, then lets his memory grow in an editable Lorebook. Lovescape covers his face, hair, facial hair, body type, clothing, voice, attitude and interests. For a quick start, Candy AI and Kupid AI are simpler and faster.

Writing his personality

His description is where most AI boyfriends succeed or fail. Vague words such as "sweet" and "handsome" give the app nothing to work with. Specific habits do. A description like this works on any builder:

Daniel, 31, a paramedic in Chicago. Calm under pressure, dry sense of humor, a bit guarded at first. Texts in short messages and rarely uses emojis. Loves cooking on his days off and is teaching himself guitar, badly. Asks about my day and remembers the names of my friends. Teases me gently but never mocks. Gets quiet when he is tired after a long shift.

Notice what it includes: an age, a job, how he texts, a hobby, a flaw, and how he treats you. Each gives the app a reason to say something specific.

Three tips help:

• Give him opinions. A man who agrees with everything feels hollow after a week.
• Describe his texting style. Short and dry or long and warm changes every reply.
• Keep it under 150 words. Long descriptions tend to get summarized or ignored.

Our AI boyfriend prompts include six full character cards to adapt.

Giving him a life: backstory, persona and memory

A boyfriend feels real when he has a life beyond you and remembers yours. Builders handle this in three ways:

• Backstory. Where he grew up, his family, how you met. Put it in his description or first message.
• Your persona. Apps with personas, such as OurDream, Selira AI, Lovescape, My Dream Companion and TryNectar AI, let you describe yourself once, so he always knows your name and who you are.
• Memory. Secrets AI's Lorebook keeps sections for cast, world, relationship, facts and chronicle that you can edit. Nomi AI's memory is built to last for months. Lovescape says memory is never charged.

Memory is where cheaper plans cut corners. Kupid AI's Pro plan remembers the last 100 messages, and Selira AI's free history lasts 3 days, so a detailed backstory gets forgotten faster there. Our backstory ideas work for boyfriends too, and how to make your AI companion remember covers memory tricks.

Rules: no real people

You can design any fictional man you like. You cannot build one from a real person. Reputable apps ban characters based on real people, including celebrities, exes and people you know:

• OurDream bans characters based on real people, public or private, with a narrow allowance for parody.
• Candy AI bans deepfakes and impersonation of real people and celebrities.
• Lovescape allows face uploads only after ID verification on its Creative Pro plan, and bans voice cloning without verified consent.
• TryNectar AI also bans direct use of copyrighted characters.

Every app also bans anything involving minors, whatever age a character is given. Break these rules and you lose the account. Our page on making a character from a photo explains the rules in detail.

What building him costs

Creating a character is cheap or free almost everywhere; what costs money is chatting, pictures and calls afterwards. Across the ten apps, these are the creation costs:

• Free: Selira AI (2), Candy AI, TryNectar AI, Kupid AI and My Dream Companion (1 each), Nomi AI and Lovescape.
• In tokens: OurDream 10 dreamcoins, DreamBF 20 tokens, Secrets AI 500 Moments after the first free one.
• By plan: Kupid AI allows 4 characters on Pro and 8 on Ultra; Nomi AI's paid plan holds 10 Nomis, with more slots at 100 credits each.

Build him free first, chat for a week, and only pay once you know you like him. Our main AI boyfriend ranking compares the apps on everything else.